If you are a writer, you definitely struggle with these emotions

author and his typewriter

Every writer has his or her moments; times of joy when your article goes viral, your book becomes a best seller or you land that writing contract, times of depression when your writing doesn’t seem to be paying you so much and times of confusion when you just don’t know what to do with your writing career anymore.

As writers, we go through so many emotions and today’s post is dedicated to talking about all these emotions and how to deal with them;


You probably would not like to admit that you have at one point or the other been envious of another writer’s abilities, articles or success. You were envious not because you don’t wish them well, but because you wonder why your career isn’t going so well or why nobody loves your article as much as theirs.

It is not so wrong to feel this way but you need to be careful not to let that emotion remain for so long. You can admire another writer’s work but never allow envy to set in. Once you notice that you are getting envious, caution yourself. This is not a competition. Remember, there is something special about your writing too. If you love the other writer’s style so much then work on yours.


Writers have a tendency to feel rejected. Your article will not always be loved by your readers. Your manuscripts will not always be accepted by publishers. Get used to it and don’t allow it get to you. Rejection is part of your journey; it is not the end of the journey.

Whenever your work is rejected, go over the comments you get (if you get any) and find out why it was rejected. Above all, don’t let rejection discourage you from writing.



Sometimes writers do not know what the next step in their career is. You may have questions like should I take this new job? Should I start freelance? Should I close my blog? Again this is not unusual. If you have too many unanswered  questions get help.  Ask other writers or join writing groups. Sometimes a problem shared just gets the right solutions.


There’s nothing worse than investing so much in your career and getting so little out of it in return. If you are not making money and writing is your primary source of income there is a tendency to get depressed and feel like giving up.

The first thing to remember is that you are not alone. So many other writers have gone through this same phase. Don’t allow your mind make you feel like this problem is peculiar to you.

If you feel writing is not paying you, you can consider talking to a writing coach, someone who can guide you and help you make the right decisions especially in the business of writing.


Writing quote – You need to get over that rejection


Rejection is something that comes with the territory in the world of writing.

Not everyone will love what you write. Not everyone will love your work.

That’s ok.

You can’t please everybody. Put in your best, write amazing stuff and achieve your goal to be a successful writer. We love the way Mary-Janice Davidson puts it, “A rejection slip today might mean a frantic call to your agent in six months.

So get over that rejection. There are glorious says ahead of you.

Chronicles of a Writer – How I got rejected and published my first story

by Adedoyin Jaiyesimi


Someone called me an ‘amateur writer’. Another said my writing needed more polishing. I felt hurt. What did they mean by that?

Hello dear writer. I welcome you to this special column on The Sparkle Writers Hub. I’ll be sharing with you real life stories of my writing journey. It has not been a smooth journey. I’ve made sacrifices, worked hard and even faced rejection, but my passion was what made everything worthwhile. So if you haven’t yet hit your big break as a writer, hang on. It really does get better with time.

Today I’ll take you back to 2012. This was when I was inspired to wipe the dust off my writing talent and actually do something with it. A colleague of mine, Faramade Atilade, had noticed how I used to visit YNaija, Bella Naija and the other popular blogs during my free time. I especially loved the ’30 Days 30 Voices Series’ on YNaija. I loved the way all the different writers who were featured put together their words. It was sweet. Effortless. I wanted to write like that. In fact, I nursed a secret desire to be featured on the series but I felt inadequate.

After a not-so-brief discussion with Faramade, I decided to write. I hadn’t written anything serious in years. I was excited. It took a while but I wrote a story about my first crush (I later posted it on my blog last year). I remember going to the office the Monday after feeling on top of the world. I shared the story with some of my colleagues. “You write well”, “Wow, this is funny”, “You should publish this.” Those were the comments I received. The last comment however stayed with me. Publish it? How? Where?

My mind went to Bella Naija first so I searched for information on how to submit stories to them. At the time they used to feature short prose, I think they still do. Anyway I sent the email with great hope that my story will actually be published. Days passed…nothing. Weeks passed…nothing still. I felt discouraged. Then I remembered I had also stumbled on another great blog during my online adventure – Myne Whitman’s blog. I got her contact details and sent her an email. She replied the next day.

Although Myne couldn’t feature my story on her blog, she asked me to sign up with Naija Stories and publish my story there. After going through the website, I signed up because I liked the idea of being part of a writing community. There was a process to getting published on Naija Stories. It wasn’t automatic but I got published nonetheless. Oh the joy I felt to see the words “Written by Doyin Jaiyesimi”. I couldn’t stop gushing.

Then the comments came. Someone called me an ‘amateur writer’. Another said my writing needed more polishing. I felt hurt. What did they mean by that? I knew I could write so how dare the person call me an amateur writer? I took the comments in my stride and thanked the people who had positive comments. I decided to improve my skill and I put up another post on the platform. It was a poem actually – my first poem. Guess what? It was a hit. It was even chosen as Editor’s Pick for that week. And the comments were positive.

I rode on that goodwill and wrote yet another story then another poem. Both were selected as Editor’s Pick as well. I was on a roll. Writers on the platform loved my work. And I was getting better at writing. The truth is I was an amateur writer when I wrote that first story. I understood why I got my first rejection. The fact that you love writing does not automatically mean that the first article you write will be hot cake. You need to work on your talent. You need to polish it. There is an art to writing and connecting with your readers. I learnt that when I got my internship with YNaija.

Next week, I will share with you how I got that internship and how for the first two/three weeks, none of the articles I wrote was published on the site. You don’t want to miss that story 🙂

Manage rejection with these 8 tips

by Adedotun Adejoorin 


Hello dear writer, how are you doing?

Do you know that Ray Bradbury the author of over 100 science fiction novels and stories had around 800 rejections before selling his first story?

Entrepreneurs, writers, artistes or anyone who puts his work out there must know that rejection is inevitable. It is not every time that the publisher, editor or boss is going to think your work is the best thing that has happened to humanity. Sometimes your work will get rejected and this can be really tough and annoying too.

 So what do you do when rejection stares at you in the face?

  1. Relax. When you get a rejection it does not mean that your life is over or your career is dead. Do not be too hard on yourself; it is JUST a rejection. You may need to take a break from writing especially commercially and just rest. This will give you fresh inspiration when you return to your writing desk.


  1. Get used to it.  This is not because you are a terrible writer. It is because it is just a part of life. Rejections happen to the best of us so don’t let it bring you down. Nobody likes to be rejected but when we are, we must ensure that we learn from it and move on. Rejections are part of your experience in becoming a better and more successful writer. It’s part of your writing story!
  1. It is not about you. Instead of moping around, acting like you were rejected, remember that it is not about you. Your work was rejected not you. Don’t think that the publisher hates you or does not like the way you dress. Instead go back and get better.


  1. Go over the comments and corrections. When your work is rejected with comments explaining why it was rejected then you should rejoice. Not every publisher takes the pain to do that. Go over the comments written down and learn from them. You do not have to agree with everything that was written. Pick what you can and move forward.  Although your work was rejected, at least you gained extra knowledge.
  1. Send to another publisher, editor or writing group. Sometimes it is good to get another ‘diagnosis’ for your work you know. Send your work to another publisher or writing group that can help review it sincerely and professionally. Sparkle Writers is one writing group you can trust. We truly care about that article. We have the expertise to help you ensure that your work is properly reviewed.
  1. Implement the recommendations. According to Malcolm Forbes, failure is success if we learn from it. Have you taken time to check the reasons why your work was rejected? Instead of thinking it is because the editor does not like your face, check the comments on your work and learn from the corrections. If you have to change one or two things about your work, change them and ensure that they never repeat themselves again. Even if the work was rejected, at least you learnt something.
  1. Share your feelings. A problem shared is already half solved. You can share your feelings with friends or other writers. It will at least help you lift the burden that rejection seems to have placed on you. By sharing your feelings you may get to hear stories of other writers who were also rejected and got encouraged again.
  1. Remind yourself why you love writing. Let’s face it, rejection can be a huge disappointment and it can discourage anyone. So take a piece of paper and just write down all the reasons why you love writing. it will encourage you not to give up.



Wondering why people don’t read your posts? This may be the reason

by Adedotun Adejoorin 


How does it feel when it seems no publisher, editor or even prospective reader likes your article? Terrible right? It is even worse when there is no reason attached to it.

There are so many reasons why your manuscript or article can be rejected and because we care, we have compiled a few of those reasons so you can be aware of them and use them to your advantage.


  1. Wrong Market. Every writer has a market which he or she writes for. Your market is the crop of people who will be interested in your writing. So if your work is meant for artisans and you give it to a publisher of a campus magazine, it is very likely that it will be rejected. We advise that you evaluate your writing style, determine who your audience is and align your writing and submissions accordingly. It doesn’t matter how good your writing is, if it is for the wrong market it will always get rejected. You should never put square pegs in round holes.
  1. Too many errors. This could be quite annoying! One of the things a writer can do to get their work immediately rejected is by submitting it with too many errors, especially the avoidable ones. Go over your work and if possible send it to an editor. Do not write ‘the sheeps left the shed in the night’ please! Publishers are very busy and seeing so many avoidable errors in your work makes you look unprofessional and lazy. Sparkle Writers can help in editing your work. We’ll give it the professional touch!


  1. Boring article. This is a NO NO; any time, any day. Nobody is interested in reading boring articles. Life is already hard enough. Janet Reid a literary agent said that it takes her 15 seconds to determine whether or not she is interested in a particular manuscript. Hence your story has to GRAB the attention of the reader right from the start.
  1. Unauthentic article. If your article does not seem real or authentic to the publisher it will be rejected. That is why you need to be real. There is no need trying to reproduce another man’s work. “If I feel like I have read something like this before, why should I continue reading it?” That is how your readers think.


  1. Wrong timing. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you. You probably submitted your article when the company was going through financial hardship and they just did not have the capacity to publish it. Or maybe they just accepted a story similar to yours and they do not need another for now.

Whatever the reason for the rejection, remember that it is NOT the end of the world. Keep writing. Your work will gain traction sooner or later.